I have always found Chinese girls beautiful but, living in NJ, I had never actually met one in person. When I broke up with my girlfriend over Christmas of last year, I decided I wanted to make my dream come true; I decided to find myself a beautiful woman in China to be my girlfriend (and maybe more, some day). It took me a few months of looking, but I eventually found her. This is my girlfriend, Li-ying, below (she gave me permission to post her pic).

Li-ying is 22 and currently finishing off a Masters degree in Accounting in Bejing. When she gets her degree, she will be coming to live with me in New Jersey, USA. In the meantime, we have planned to spend the summer and Christmas together. I don’t like to fly, so she is coming here.

So, let me tell you how I found a Chinese girlfriend.

A few months back I looked around Google search for resources on dating Chinese girls in china for western men. I found a few dating sites and mail order bride sites. What a waste of time! Trust me, avoid these kind of sites. I joined several and all of them seemed to be cons. When the girls contacted me, they were asking me to join other dating sites, or send them money to pay pal for various reasons. I smelled a rat.

I told a friend what I wanted to do – find a girlfriend in China – and he gave me the best and most simple advice ever. He said, “Just join a dating site.” To be honest, it had never occurred to me to look for women in China on a dating site. I don’t know why. Well I joined the biggest dating site I could find – this one here – and started to look.

I would suggest you use the same dating site I did, because this next bit of advice worked for me on that actual site. However, I think this will work on any big dating community, so it’s entirely up to you.

Link to their free community: free page

When you join that dating service, you should include in your description that you want a girlfriend from China. Why? Well girls in China are searching for men on this site every day. If you have that text in your profile, it means the site’s search engine will pick it up, and deliver your profile to Chinese girls who are looking for men like us.

When your profile is complete, all you need to do is go to the people search page. Now this site will let you search for women based on “country”. So all you do is select China and, bingo, you have a list of women from China who want dates with western men.

So you have a list of Chinese girls. It will tell you which ones are online and which are offline. You can add them as friends, send emails, or send quick instant messages. I would suggest you send a nice email to each one. Chinese girls prefer it because it looks like you are putting in a little effort. But, don’t worry, you can send the same email every time.

And this worked for me. After my initial search for sites about dating Chinese girls in China for western men, this site got me a girlfriend. Me and Li-ying chat online every day over msn webcam and exchange emails. I’m looking forward to her visit this June, too. And – who knows? – maybe there will be wedding bells in the future!

If you’re a man with a pantyhose fetish, you will appreciate that this is no easy task. Luckily, there is quite a simple method. Before we get on to that, though, let me give you a little advice on where “not” to look for woman.

Some specialist dating sites are setup in order to help men with a lingerie fetish find female partners. I would advise you, on the whole, to avoid such sites. They tend to be very expensive and have very few members. A lot of them are also scams, setup to dupe newbie dating site enthusiasts who are easily conned out of their hard earned cash.

The best way to find women who will let you indulge your pantyhose fetish is to look on a big dating community that is trusted and has a good reputation. As readers will know, my favorite dating community is, of course, Amateur Match.

All you have to do on a site like AM is get yourself a free account and head straight over to their search page. Put in a search for local women but also throw in the keyword “pantyhose”. You will be given a list of local women who probably have a pantyhose fetish. Depending on where you live, this could be dozens, hundreds, or thousands of women. Now all you do is send an instant message to those women who are online and you end up with your choice of local women, all of whom want to see you wearing their pantyhose!

Specify Your Gender

Include a gender-obvious Christian name in your user name. Simon at least got that right! The reason you do this is because a lot of the time your user name is not accompanied by a pic. If a lady is looking for a guy in San Francisco she will, given a choice between SanFrancisco092387 and SingerDavidSF, choose to communicate in some way or check out the second guy. The big dating sites are littered with user names without accompanying pics. Think of chat rooms, blog and group comments, latest users online, forum threads.

Choose One Word And One Facet To Promote

Consider what it is about yourself that your target person would find irresistible. Are you a singer in a rock band? Do you like reading horror novels? Are you an avid keep fit enthusiast? Do you have big muscles? Then select a single word that typifies it: Singer, Reader, Fit, Muscled. The next time you go to the newspaper stand, check out the front page headlines. They grab your attention, right? Do the SAME THING with your dating user name. A nice lady is given a choice between SFMark and RockStarMarkSF. Who’s she going to email? Another one – because we can’t all be rock stars (no, it doesn’t count when you sing in the shower). SFMark and MrRomanticMarkSF. Ladies are going to choose Mr Romantic’s juicier headline!

Make it Pithy

My dictionary tells me pithy means a ” brief, forceful, and meaningful in expression.” That sounds perfect for a dating user name. Short and snappy and attention-grabbing!

So the next time you ask yourself how to create online dating user names you know the 3 secrets to success (I sound like an infomercial) : choose something pithy that promotes something desirable about yourself to your target audience and lets them know if you’re male, female, transgendered, or whatever else I’m missing (I’ve led a sheltered life…are aliens dating yet?).